Pick me up tips for men in these hard times

Pick me up tips for men in these hard times

Though men and women pretty much have the same jobs and capabilities of achieving great success in them, men still to this day play a big part as main bread winners in families with stay at home moms and most are facing some pretty difficult times right now. 

As women, we are born with a maternal instinct to plough through whatever comes our way while juggling work and family. Whether with or without a family at home, these uncertain times can be pretty stressful and really mess with our minds. But we can’t just give up because things around us have come to a halt and the future is uncertain. We have to move forward and keep going. It's tough I know, but if we stick through and persevere, we will get through this rough patch. This arduous time will inevitably lead to better days and life will become easy again. We all face challenges in life. Sometimes, due to our fault, and other times, they just happen like what the world is facing now with Covid-19. 

tips to handle stress for men

Overcoming these challenges is tough, but there are ways to get through them and we should try to achieve success as best as possible. Recovering from stressful situations define us as a person. Don’t count how many times you fail and fall, just remember the times you get back up. 

Unlike women, it is generally assumed that most men are satisfied with their lives. But studies show that men between the ages of 40 and 60, are known to have the lowest levels of satisfaction in life. Sometimes, even if a problem isn’t a big one, it seems difficult and not easy to defeat. 

There are so many tips for us women out their on how to deal with stress. But unfortunately, it just seems like men are supposed to keep going no matter what, with no thought given to a little de-stress and downtime to regain strength and the will to power through.

So gentlemen, here are a few tips that might help

Admit what you are feeling - You do not need to be superman and make like everything is perfect all the time. You will be surprised at how much better you feel at acknowledging what is disturbing you. Do not avoid your emotions. Denying emotions that are troubling you will never solve the issue, you have to get to the root of the problem and face it.

Talk to your support system; Your friends your family - Men don’t usually confide in anyone when they are going through stuff. They tend to hold it in and think they can deal with it alone. Trust me, you need to find a person you can confide in. Get it off your chest. It can be a best friend, a family member, or even a colleague who sympathizes with you. You just need one person to help you through.

Focus on your purpose - Problems are a part of life. We all go through problems periodically in our lives. Remember your purpose. Jot down the things that most matter to you like finances, health, your marriage/partnership, your kids and off course your career. Women are more likely to write down things in journal or lists. But there is nothing wrong as a man to make a list of these things to help you keep focused and help you through.

Look in the mirror - When we get depressed and let things get us down, our appearance becomes something we don’t really care about. Especially now with being stuck at home, appearance and hygiene are not on the agenda. But please remember that good personal hygiene and a great personal appearance helps build self-respect. Grooming regularly has such a good effect on our image both physically and emotionally. Take a nice relaxing bath. Wash your hair, shave and use a good charcoal face mask or if you are a bearded man, use a good beard oil and trim your beard. You will feel so much better when you look in the mirror and like what you see.

Exercise helps - Physical activity seems so difficult when you are feeling down. You will need to force yourself to get up and do it. It will affect your mood in a positive way so please give it a try. Exercise keeps you fit but it also releases ‘feel good’ endorphins and these can help release stress. You focus more on your body and breathing when you are exercising.

What you wear - You’d think that what we wear would not affect our mood. Well, it does. What we choose to wear can significantly affect our mood. Those sweat pants are a staple at home and perfect for lounging on the couch and watching TV. Sure they are comfortable. Normally, we come home from work and change into something comfortable. (Most women can't wait to take off their bra and heels and for men its most probably the tie and suit.) Off with the tight and sweaty stuff! Remember that colors can be uplifting and have an effect on our moods as well. Note that if you are working from home or not working at all during this time where we are all home, the opposite might be a good suggestion; you might want to get up, get washed, groomed, and dressed as though you are going to work or out shopping. In this case, dressing up will lift your spirits.

Thinking of others - Helping others can be so rewarding even when we are feeling down and low. See if you can volunteer or help a neighbor. We all have seniors in our neighborhoods who might need some help. 

“You become strong by lifting others up, not pulling them down.”

Matshona Dhliwayo

 tips for men

Positive activities, reading and television - If you are feeling down and going through a hard time, stick to watching positive and funny movies and shows. Read positive and inspirational books. Stay away from negativity. Play with the kids, face time family. Check online for daily inspirational quotes. These are uplifting and will help you start the day in a positive way.

"Once you choose hope, anything is possible." —Christopher Reeve–